Nollywood Actress Tonto Dikeh took her time to explain the issues relating to her marriage:
God settled me with Oladunni Churchill.
Pure Joy. But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you…1 Peter 5:10.
My finding love again…
Ladies Don’t let no man sap all of your energy and love when he obviously have nothing to offer you asides from good s*x. I’ve been there, done that and trust me, I ran away.
Catch flights don’t catch feelings? So tell me, what is your reason for being? The purpose of your existence?
The same reasons why many of us are here in the first place… I don’t mean to kill the Boss attitudes, but I work with bosses all the time.
You have to be able to find a balance. Yes we all have an economic reality, But No, money can’t love you.
Be happy at every opportunity, never repress your love for the sake of trying to make enough money.”
What is enough? Can you feed your self? Do you have a bed to sleep in at night? Yet you want a bigger bed, forgetting that you could be looking for someone to share it with. Dont miss out on a family just for money…
Don’t turn into a bitter and cynical person because you were in love once and it didn’t work out… Yes, you invest emotional energy into your partner, but you will always have more energy….
You have a lot of Love to Give. Energy can’t be destroyed so you can’t say it was wasted. Your partner cheated on you…
Doesn’t mean all humans are cheats. My ex was a cheat, a prolific internet LovePeddler and a fake but that didn’t stop me from loving even harder the next time… You have to be in it to win it. Building breakable barriers will leave you lonely.
Loneliness would leave you Sad. If you don’t allow people to get close to you then yes you might not hurt, but you will never Feel. Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.
So catch feelings and flights, but don’t forget love, because that is what all humans need. Don’t let modern trends change your mindset in Cynical ways… Living a life without love, is not living at all.
Most annoying is when the woman have to be bread winner and still receive nothing but the m*****d.
A good d**k never built a house or paid the rent; a hardworking, dedicated, supportive man does.